When you train in EFT, you hear a lot about 1) the EFT Core Foundational Skills and 2) the EFT Art of Delivery. I like to think of these as the left brain and the right brain of EFT.
The EFT Core Foundational Skills – EFT’s Left Brain.
Solid EFT training will get you grounded in the vitally important Core Foundational Skills. You learn them as concepts and you learn the reasons behind them. Your analytical, rational left brain loves this. That part of the brain wants to know the “how-to’s” and the “why’s.”
For instance, take the concept of being specific. How to do it? You ask questions, gather details, zero in on very specific things to tap for, etc. Learning to be specific is an essential core skill and not doing this well creates real problems. Why? Because tapping works so much better when we tap for specifics rather than staying general. And because it helps you answer the question of “what to tap for?” — with your focus on being specific, you will identify what to tap for much more easily.
Or take the concept of sneaking up, one of the gentle techniques. How to do it? When an issue is very intense for someone, you stay around the edges and tap for their feelings about facing the issue before ever going close to the issue itself. Why? Because it allows you to take much of the intensity out of a difficult issue before actually going there and is much safer and more respectful of the client. It’s a great way to work with intensity.
To me, there is no substitution for exceptional training in the Core Foundational Skills. We have to have ALL the tools in our toolbox, know a lot about how to use them, and understand why we are using them. We want our EFT left brain to be very well developed.
The EFT Art of Delivery – EFT’s Right Brain.
Equally important is our EFT Art of Delivery. I love that this is called an “art,” for I truly believe that sitting down to offer healing work to another human being has to be an art, engaging our creativity, our intuition, and our sensitivity. Our impressionable, creative, emotional, visionary right brain loves this. That part of the brain wants to be freed from rigid concepts and requirements so that it can flow with the process. It wants to be intuitive and inspired. It wants to enter the unique world of each individual and not put anyone into boxes.
We are engaging the right brain when we listen deeply and take in the whole person as a fellow traveler who is struggling. We feel empathy. We easily gain rapport because we’re tuning in to them. And when we start tapping with them, we’re very responsive to their cues and can creatively meet them where they are. For example, if someone is really not able to connect with the default setup language, “I deeply and completely accept myself,” your right brain and Art of Delivery let go of any rigid requirements and brainstorm with them, “let’s find the words that really work for you.” I have several clients who are much more comfortable with, “I’m learning to love and accept myself,” or “it’s time to bring healing to this,” for example.
Our right brain is good at seeing the bigger picture, identifying themes, and making connections. While the left brain tends to approach things in a linear way, the right brain loves to circle out and back, following the energy, trusting the process that is unfolding.
We Need Both Hemispheres of our EFT Brain
We may already know which side of the brain is our “home” because of our personality and preferences. Some people are more left-brain oriented and may become engineers, accountants, scientists, and so forth because they love facts and numbers and logic. Others are more right-brain oriented and may be drawn to the arts or service professions where things are more flowing and feelings are prized. But most of what we do requires that we draw on both right and left sides of our brains to do it well. This is certainly the case with EFT.
So do all you can to master the Core Foundational Skills. And then, when you sit down with a living, breathing fellow human being, let your creative right brain help you be present and connect with them. Then you can flow with the healing process as you draw upon all of those left-brain tools. That is the Art of Delivery at its finest, when it is wedded to the Core Skills and both right and left EFT brains are fully engaged. You and your client become brilliant together! And you get awesome results.
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